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I read very few books on relationships or the (supposedly) self-help ones. This, as far as I can remember, is the  third one I have read  in that genre mainly because of two reasons. Firstly, I wanted kind of light and funny (in some way!!) read and secondly the title was catchy!

Sherry Argov has put down her thoughts about why men love certain type of women and she calls them “Bitches”, no offense meant though. You will need to read the book to understand her portrayal of bitch. She is not a mere lovey-dovey person who is submissive, dependent and lets her man walk over her. On the contrary, she is confident, independent and is in control of her life and relations. She knows how to become a dream girl rather than a doormat!

More about the bitch….She doesn’t need approvals. She has her own priorities ..her things are equally important for her…she knows who she is….she can take decisions for herself…she knows how to please herself…she doesn’t let her be taken for granted and much more of similar blah blah… so much of idealism that sometimes it was too overwhelming! Do such women exist?? Are such women actually someone a man would long for??

Sherry has given Relationships tips and advices throughout the book which are highlighted and numbered. And lot of examples, supposedly from real men and women! You will get the gist even if you just read the advices. These are anyways jotted down at the end of the book again!

As for the relevance of the book’s content, some things are true and we all know about them. There are things which we would like to hold true and some are quite superficial and maybe a bit far from reality. Again, it depends on context, your background, perspective and so on! One good thing that the book reminds you of is the individualism of women, which in my view applies to every individual nonetheless!

It’s an OK read. You don’t miss anything great if you don’t read it and if you do, it’s not going to change much in you (my personal view!!) just because you read this book!!! And if you get loved by a man because  you are a “bitch”, you are one lucky woman! LOL

 

Few “bitchy” lines from the book:

Bitch (noun): “A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion – be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. She doesn’t try to live up to anyone else’s standards – only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.”

“Live by your own rules Move to your rhythm, instead of dancing to the beat of someone else’s drum Decide how you want to be treated Choose what you will or will not tolerate Leave if you don’t get what you want.”

“Anytime a woman competes with another woman she demeans herself.”

“He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.”

“When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it’s the only kind of relationship worth having.”

“The most attractive quality of all is dignity.”

“The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.”

“Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is “no contact”.”

“Success in love isn’t about looks, it’s about attitude.”

“If someone else doesn’t like your confidence, that’s their problem.

“Why? You always come before they do, that’s why.”

“Men control the world, but women control the men.”

“If you can’t convince ’em, confuse ’em.”

“You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face”

“The bitch is an empowered woman who derives tremendous strength from the ability to be an independent thinker, particularly in a world that still teaches women how to be self-abnegating. This woman doesn’t live someone else’s standards, only her own.”

“The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time.”

“When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.”

“It isn’t about looks; gorgeous women get dumped every day.”

“Don’t learn the tricks of the trade. Learn the trade.”

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