Mel Robbins used this rule when she felt she was holding herself back for almost everything in life, found it useful and talked about in a TED talk. Back then, it didn’t have a name! Popularised by the twitteratti, it got an official name and henceforth the book was born!
Mel says the only things that hold us, big and small, is our fears and ourselves. She reckons the rule is a tool that you can use for something as small as getting out of bed every morning or as big as starting a new business! And she quotes:
“You Are One Decision Away from a Completely Different Life”
The idea is to count down from 5 to 1 as then you have time not long enough to let the mental barriers and fears come into play.
It might sound a bit daunting when she says:
“Start before you’re ready.
Don’t prepare, begin.”
Once you can overcome the psychological hurdles, neglect the ‘what ifs’ and perform an action, it boosts your confidence and brings about positive changes around you!
I particularly liked the section where she talks about what people consider as courage. It’s not huge things as fighting a war or climbing a mountain, courage is reflected i a lot of little things one does in day-to-day life. Something as simple as waking up in morning or saying something to someone!
A major portion of the book is testimonials from people who have successfully used it. And they are copied as is from emails or twitter! After reading it, I have used the rule few times successfully and once I did something I was really scared about! So, I can myself vouch that it works!
It’s a good book, wish it was cut down by few tens of pages!! TED talk to be watched soon!
“Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.”
“You can’t control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.”
“pushing yourself to take simple actions creates a chain reaction in your confidence and your productivity.”
“There will always be someone who can’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you”
“the most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are the hardest to see and talk about.”